I have just caught up on the BBC 2 programme “Abortion on trial”.
This got me thinking about my own views, pro life or pro choice or maybe even somewhere in between?
As a young probably somewhat naive girl I would have stood for hours and told you about how I was pro life and how i could never “murder” my baby. I just couldn’t see any plausible reason to abort your unborn baby.
Until December of 2005 when I did just that I had an abortion. I was 17 and madly in love with what I now realise an extremely virbaly abusive man nearly 10 years my senior. He was desperate to keep the baby but after finding out I was nearly 18weeks pregnant and honestly had no idea I was in shock!. My partners were very supportive to which ever choice I made but also helped me realise that he was not the man I thought he was and that I wasn’t ready for a baby.
For me the hardest part was that I had almost no time to decide and on December 23rd I went In to my local hospital. It was all over with in a blink of an eye and to be honest it is a complete blur.
But now clearly my views have changed somewhat and the say really is prevalent here;
You can’t judge or make a decision on a situation you have never been in.
So for me I found this documentary particularly interesting and listening to the women’s stories very at times heart wrenching.
However there was one thing I am still struggling with, there was a man on the programme who’s ex partner had aborted his child after her begged her not to and even stated he would raise the child alone?
How is it right that a woman can decided to keep a baby even if the father isn’t interested, but a man has no choice but to loose a child?
This is where I am stuck between a rock and a hard place?
I do not feel any woman should have to carry a child for 9months that she does not want, it is to mentally disturbing.
I do not feel anyone should be forced to abort a child they wish to keep.
I do not feel anyone should loose a child that could have a loving home, what ever the means.
I do feel every person has the right to have a child.
Are you seeing my point/problem?
I would never say a woman should have to carry and birth a child she doesn’t want but I also feel a man shouldn’t have to stand by and watch a child he wants to love and bring up be aborted?
What are your feelings?
Pro life or pro choice?
How do you feel about this gentleman’s situation?
Please share your feeling and thought on this somewhat controversial subject.