The Grandmother i had once lost.

After reading the mother In law by Carol from mum life a blogger I avidly follow. I felt inspired to share this story with you.

Me and my grandparents were so close when I was a child, they would have us for the weekend and always take us on amazing days out. The were people i really looked up to and admired.

But then one day I can’t remember exactly when or how I was told it’s all a bit of a blur to be honest but my aunt, my mum’s sister and best friend was diagnoaed with beast cancer ( I won’t go into the details as this is about my grandmother) but she sadly lost her battle on 30th January 2002.

It hit everyone hard but especially my grandmother, she stil hasn’t greaved properly to this day! Don’t get me wrong, I cannot imagine losing a child and I honestly don’t think I would cope well either but one thing I am sure of is that I would pull my family / children etc closer not push them away. 

My grandma is known for her harsh tounge usually she’s only saying what were all thinking but know it’s inappropriate to say. But after my aunt passed she became completely uncensored and she didn’t seem to care who she hurt along the way. As I have mentioned before my mum and aunt were not only sisters they were best friends, where ever one was the other one followed. So grandma found seeing my mum particularly hard as she just expected my aunt to be following behind. The same unfortunately applied to me, I had spend my life being told how much like my aunt I was. Same frame, same attitude, same temperament even looked the same (not that I can see it). Grandma even when to the extent of telling my mum one day that the wrong daughter had tied. So as you can imagine this created a large rift between us, which for year I wondered if it would ever be able to be fixed. 

Until on 14th March 2014 my beautiful daughter was born and almost over night the woman that once seemed to have a frozen heart had almost thored out ( my dad use to call her the ice queen ). She became the effetinalte woman I had once idolized and loved dearly. 

We now meet regularly for coffee, go on days out with my children. She is a huge part of mine and the kids life again to be honest at times i don’t know what I would do without her. 

So it just goes to show how children really can make all your troubles and woes disappear.

Much love 

rhianna xx 

The many hats of a mother 

When you become a mother you automatically assume many different roles, most of which you love and seem to become more of a identity than a role others though are not so appealing. 

1. A mother.

The woman that nurtures her children. A care giver. 

2. A maid.

The woman that cleans up are her children. Washing the dishes and keeps the house in order.

3. A chair.

You sit down for a 5 minuet break and within a blink of an eye you have someone sitting on your lap weather they were invited or not. 

4. A punching bag.

I do not mean tis literally. I mean this metaphorically. No matter what age your child is, if something isn’t going quite rite you can bet it is your fault. Weather it’s an over tired baby or a teenage tantrum… You got it you’ll take the brunt of there mood. 

5. A dummy. 

Once your a mother you become a soothing divice. As a new born it tends to be feeding to sleep but as they get older then can become attached to suckling just for comfort and when you think you’ve cracked that habit. It’ll turn into cuddles, hair twiddling which even soothing action your child enjoys.

6. A climbing frame. 

What you don’t realise is that you have a sign on you that only your children can see which read “climb on me” or “jump on me”. 

7. A chef.

From around 6 months old you become a personal chef, your rolls include:

Cooking 3 meals a day.

Remembering that today they don’t like broccoli but tomorrow they will.

Smiling when they show no interest and even some disgust to the food you’ve spent the last hour lovingly preparing for them.

Producing food on demand. “I’m hungry now not in 15 minutes when it’s ready, so I’m going to have a melt down and slow down the process even more”. 

8. A bank. 

The expression “bank of mum” springs to mind. Yes everyone knows children are expensive and it doesn’t get any easier the older they get. It changes from a £5 toy to £20 to go out with there mates. What happened to bring given £2 to get a drink and chocolate bar and a packet or crisps whilst you were out doing free activities (ie the park or forest walks) with your friends. 

9. An agony aunt. 

Getting to listen to all your children’s worries however comical they can seem. Keep a straight face and offer advice. Then just pray they take it. 

10. An educator.

It is your duty as a mother to teach your children everything they need to know to be a well rounded individual. From empathy and love to shapes and colours. This is by far the most rewarding and is truly a perfect example of the more you put in the more you will get back. 
Let me know which is your most and least favourite mum hat! Or any other hat you take on. 

Much love 

Rhianna xx

Sale shopping for the crazy Christmas lady 

I love Christmas it’s the only holiday I celebrate really, and oh I go all out!. I am also a crazy Christmas shopper, I start early for bargins and to spread the cost. Christmas is expensive for us , we both have largr families as well as our sons birthday in november, my partners december and christmas as well. 

Today when I went into my local town which is very very small I did manage to get some bargins for the kids. 

Lovely floral jumper only £3 peacocks

Denim dress £8 peacocks 

Hair bows £1 each pound land 

This bag wasn’t a sale item but o couldn’t resist £9 peacocks

Joggers £4 peacocks

Peacocks have a massive sale I also got a few just tank tops in various colours for £1 each!  

At this rate I’ll be done by October lol.

Much love 

Rhianna xxx

First A&E trip!

Saturday night …. bath time….. trip to A&E
My daughter had already technically had 2 A&E trips but with hers she was taken in an ambulance as she’s had 2 febrile seizure. The first time we had no idea what is was and thought she was having breathing difficulties after the seizure as she went limp and started to go blue. The second time i know it was going to happened seconds before it did and knew exactly what it was. The took her in an ambulance the first time out of recortion but the second time she swallowed a little sick and so had to be nebulised,  which let to an increased heart rate which left us admitted into hospital for 3 days until it had returned to normal. Although these was horrifying times for us it never felt like an actual A&E trip. 

Until last night dinner finished and washing up done. Time for a bath. I turned my back to get a towel for my son as he wanted out, he stood up and slipped. Smashed his face on the edge of the bath which ended up with an impact split about 2/3 cm long. Strangely it didn’t bleed a lot but it was about half a cm wide so I knew we needed to go to the hospital. He’s a typical boy always digging in garden, jumping off things he shouldn’t, I do nothing but wipe his mucky face. So I was worried about infection with an open wound that large. A&E were great the agreed with me and decided to glue it together to stop infection and he would t be able to pick it like he would a stitch.

He screamed the place down. I don’t think it was the pain or the cleaning etc it was the fact he was being restrained for this all to happen. Nearly 24hrs later and he still being off with me :(. 

I have feeling this will be the first of any trips unfortunately, I just can’t believe he’s only 20months and has already had to be glued back together. 

Hope you all had a better Saturday night than I did.

Much love 

rhianna xx 

Since when did I have siblings??

My family have always said I looked young for my age but I’ve never really seem it, I’m just me! But since having the children it had stopped being mentioned, I’d stopped getting asked for ID for a bottle opener at the supermarket. Yes that did happen I got ID for a bottle opener and a tin opener on two separate occations.

But this morning when the delivery driver came my eldest was chatting away… well doing her I’m nervous and I’m not so sure what to say so I’m not going to make total sence or souly use real words. I’m amungest the rubbish and the gilly gilly sounds she said my grandma gone (my mum had left about a hour previous to this). The driver clearly didn’t hear or understand her as he replied “oh it’s ok your mummy will be back soon, but it’s ok your sister is here”. I was stunned and didn’t know what to say or do. I decided not to embarrass the driver and just sign for my parcel, thank him and shut the door. 

After feeling shocked , insulted and a little upset i gave my self a shake and thought to myself hey you don’t look like a nearly 30 mum of two under 4. You don’t look like you haven’t had a good night’s sleep on what feels like forever, clearly I looked a lot better than I felt!

So now as I look back on this morning I see it as a complement and so should anyone else who this happens to!

High five 🖐 if your lucky enough to look like your children’s older sister.

Much love 

Rhianna xx 

Why do they grow up so fast!

Why do they grow up so fast ! It feels like only 5 minutes ago that my eldest was born! And my youngest (who is nearly 2) is stil a 6 month old baby in my eyes!

I’m petrified my youngest is due to start nursery in January and tis time next year I’ll be getting my eldest ready for school. Every keeps telling me how amazing it’ll be to get some me time and kid free time, but I honestly don’t know what I will do with the time other than worry about then and feel awful for begrudging them there freedom and Independents. 

I know it’s ridiculous and completely irrational to feel that’ll be redundant and no longer any use. But I can’t help but feel this way. 

On the plus side I will be able to drink a hot cup of tea without wearing any of it. I’ll be able to clean my house without to tornadoes leaving a wake of destruction after me. And maybe just maybe I will be able to regain a little of my identity again rather than just being someone’s mum. 

With all this said and don’t I unfortualy stil don’t feel any better about the whole situation and it will end up being more like me bored and busting a gut to pick them back up again. 

For Now though I can take my mind off it trying to organise my son’s birthday and get ready for Christmas! Yes i said it the “C” word… it’s out there now and I’m not taking it back. I am a very organised person and I have started Christmas shopping already. But I have to be we are a one income family with two children under 4 as well as a large family so starting early is the only way I can afford to get the kids everything I want to get them. Hopefully it will keep my mind busy so I won’t have to think about losing my babies to school and nursery !

Much love 

Rhianna xx 

My crazy Ikea home

It wasn’t until the other day that I was talking a “friend” I only put it in quotations as she’s a new friend, from the school and hasn’t been in my home. Which is why we were talking about kids rooms, she’s wanting to redo her son’s room. But anyway I’m getting off course, I realise during this conversation that I have an Ikea problem and an alarming amount of Ikea bargins in my home. I had never really realised just how much until now.  

So I just thought I’d share some of my favourite bargins!

Aneboda wardrobe. £49

Bargin at £49 for a wardrobe but it’s was £30 when I brought it.  It’s really good value for money with a horizontal bar and a large shelf. 

Brimnes chest of drawers £50.

Only 3 draws but the draws are huge!

My Trofast kids toy storage.

Jokkmokk Dinning table £89

I have added seat cusions and am now thinking about sanding it all down and painting it.  But that’s not any reflection on the table were just redecorating the dinning room. 

 

         storage containers £1.50

These are perfect for on the go meals for my 20month old. He’s a fussy eater and if we go out for dinner and they don’t serve pasta I have to take him a meal and these are the perfect size for a larger little meal.

                  highchair £15

This was actually given to us by my sister in law to use at a wedding but OMG it has come in so handy as convention highchair are a nightmare to get into the car. This one the legs detatch. It isn’t our every day high chair but it comes with us to all family gathering and special events. 

                    Paint set £6

This was the first paint set i ever brought my daughter and it’s perfect. It has a great range of colours and there a little thicker so not so drippy!

                      cars £10

These were a gift from my grandmother to my son! He loves them. Especially as they come apart. There extremely robust my son is a typical boy and they have taken a beating and are still all in perfect condition.

                    cutlery £7.75! 

I had/have really lovely rounded handled cutlery but my other half constantly moans about how he can cut food with a round handled knife so I got these to shut him up. We’ve had them about 3 years and they are such good quality, I couldn’t believe it.

Much love 

rhianna xx 

Weaning tips 

Weaning is a magic time for most mum’s and babies, watching them explore and enjoy new foods so here is just a few tips and tricks I found really really helpful with my two. 

 

Baby food trays, lidded icecube tray will work just as well. I got mine 3yrs ago from a 99p shop! Bargain. But unfortunately I stupidly didn’t save them so had to buy more for my son which I got on line they were quite a bit more expensive but honestly they are worth there weight in gold. There perfect for when your just starting out as there only a small portion and as there appitie grows, you can just use more and more cubes without any waste. With my daughter I used then until she was about 8months as I would empty out the trays into freezer bags and reuse them. I would do trays and trays of different veggies, potato and different main meals and just mix and match them all needed so she would have say for instance Sheppard pie (2x cubes) carrots (1 cube) broccoli (1 cube ) and so on and so forth. 
If you eat it they eat it. Obviously this is within reason but as soon as you can get your child eating the same as the rest of the family and at the same time the better for everyone. They will enjoy the interaction as well as the praise of the whole family. 
– Be patient. There will be meals times that are testing where they refuse to eat or are just screaming to the point you want to pull your hair out. But just stay calm let them interact with the food and how it feels and it’s such a new experience.

– Don’t let them be hungry. I know this sounds mad but when it comes to first foods. A hungry baby won’t eat as all they want is there milk, give them some milk about half an hour or so before any they will be a lot more willing to try.  
Don’t panic. Solid food are completely new and forgien to babies. At first they will probably hold the food in the mouth and spit a majority of it back out. Remember there still tasting it and that’s the most important thing.
All babies are different and will take to solids in there own time. As I found out with my two. 

Much love 

rhianna xx  

My weaning experience 

My daughter was amazing to wean I think I enjoyed it more than her. She loved everything she was given and would always clean the bowl. I made everything from scratch, freeze it down and honestly enjoyed doing it. 

Then I had my son, he refused everything I gave him. Spat everything that was put in this mouth back out at me talk about disheartening, i put all that effort in preparing his meal just to get it litterly thrown back in my face . Every meal time was a battle. I tried everything from distraction, airplanes to begging but nothing worked. The only thing I would assure he would eat was banabix (banana flavoured weetabix) and he couldn’t eat that three times a day ! But then at about 18months we had a urecka moment he just woke up and started eating ! Granted meal times are now messier than ever as I am no longer aloud to help feed him and bless him he insists on using a spoon for EVERYTHING. He now eats most things but his favourites are pasta, bakes beans and stil his banabix. 

Enough of my ramblings for now I just thought I’d share how different my children were / are and how I have had to very different experiences regarding weaning. 

I’ll write up a tips and tricks list this week as I hope it will help any new mum’s or mums struggling like I was with my son. 

Much love 

rhianna xx

TOP 10 baby names

As I have mentioned before we are thinking about the possibility of baby no3 and so be being the crazy planner that I am have already started thinking about baby names for the baby that isn’t defiantly going to happen…. I know I’m ridiculous at times. So I’ve been compiling my top 10 baby names.

  • Savannah (F) : This is of Spanish origin and means treeless plain.
  • Theon (M) : Its a Greek name. In Greek the meaning of the name is: Godly.
  • Alana (F) : Is a Gaelic name the meaning and origin is uncertain it may come from the Irish Gaelic word for child.
  • Bane (M) : This is a Slavic name which means glorious defender.
  • Andrey (M) : This is an English names which means brave.
  • Trey (M) : Is another English names which means tree.
  • Evie (F): Origin of the name Evie: Derived from the Hebrew Chava (life), which is from hawwah (life). The name is borne in the Bible by the first woman, “the mother of all the living.”
  • Niyah (F) : is a variant of the name nia which has African- Swahili origin meaning purpose or aim.
  • Maddison (F) : This is of English origin and dirives from mad son or son of mad.

I would love to hear some of your suggestions as to your favourite baby names

Much love

Rhianna xx