I need serious mum help!

Right I’m just gonna get straight into this…. my just turned 2yr old was an amazing sleeper and would always go down without a fight..  until he was about 15months he started waking in the night a refusing to go to bed awake… I used to hear him banging his arms legs and head on the bars of his cot so we decided to turn his cot into a cot bed at about 21months ? hopping to solve the problem. 

We’ll it didn’t. Then when I had my emergency surgery (the first night he’d ever spent without me) he has got 100 times worse, waking 3/4times a night screaming and them being a nightmare to get back down. Not going to bed awake or if he is awake I have to stay until he falls asleep…. I know your all reading this and thinking…. leave him to scream or something but heres my problems. 

My 2 children share a room and so by almost sleep training him all over again means my daughter cannot go to bed until he’s finally asleep where ever that May be?

So please please please mum’s out there i am in desperate need of advice on what to do!!!

HELP !

Much love 

Rhianna xx

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2nd birthday plans 

Well it’s 5 weeks until my son’s 2nd birthday! Omg how time has flown.. so im  now preparing for this birthday. 

We’ve decided not to give him any formal party this year. We’re just going to try out a new soft play area and have a special tea. 

Now I should have learnt from last year but I didn’t and finding birthday paper in the small town we call home even in October is a total nightmare, today we weren’t to a local town which is considerably bigger but stil isn’t a city if you get my drift. There they have a paper chase which if any of you have been before you’ll know is a beautiful paper,craft,card shop but it is a little pricey. I found the most beautiful paper yhere with dinosaurs on which was £3.45 for 3m …. ouch! 

We are also copping out this year with gifts as he’s only 2 and I feel we can stil get away with minimal presents and still give him an amazing day in which he will never remember. So this year his bulk of gifts are clothes from us and 3 small toys. Although don’t feel like he’s missing out as my parents are getting him a monstrous vtech toot toot race way thingy, they already technically had his huge transporter gift from his great grandparents and the until have brought him another gift (I believe a toy airplane) and that is without aunt’s and uncles! I think he’ll do just fine !

I make my kids a cake every year without fale but I’m unsure what to do my son this year? He’s mad about trains and cars (thankfully not Thomas yet tho ) so I am thinking maybe something along the lines of this? 

But I’m really unsure?  Or maybe a bing bunny cake ? My only trouble with this is I did a bing make for my daughter second birthday. Any ideas ?? 

The only thing that is for sure is that he is a cake fiend so I’ll probably go with chocolate… who doesn’t like chocolate cake!

Anyway I hope your all having an amazing week? 

What would you suggest for a monsters 2nd birthday? 

Much love 

rhianna xx 

A typical boy??

What is a typical boy ?

I never belived in “boys” and “girls” I have always belived that a child is who he or she is and there likes dislikes and behaviour was due to upbringing . 

Oh how I was wrong both of my children have been brought up the same and I don’t treat them any differently because if there gender.  Granted I have been a lot more relaxed with my son (2nd child) but isn’t every one.?. And I don’t think I was that much of a freety  mum In the first place with my daughter I have always been very children will be children, they will eat dirt and they will fall over there’s no need to panic or fret theyll live sort of mum. 

But never the less my daughter loves arts and crafts and has from a very young age she loves to sing and dance and sparkly things. 

My son still eats paint and for the 5secs in which he stops, he flicks the paintbrush so paint splirts up the walls. He loves to dance but he loves nothing more than playing in the garden with his transporter or playing on his ride on.  

His temperament is a lot different he is impatient and will go Tasmanian devil on you in the blink of an eye! Such a man thing no patience. He’s also very rough and tumble which you’d associate with a little boy. Yes forever banging something on something usually as he’s tried to climb on something he shouldn’t or jump of something he shouldn’t without looking first!

I hope this is making sence and you can really see how different they are and it’s not just personalities you could literally pidgen hole my children! My daughter doesn’t like being dirty, my son thinks a bath is full of acid ! Type of thing. 

Is anyone else’s children like this or is it just mind? 

Please let me know your thoughts 

Much love 

Rhianna xxx

Is the big bed a fail?

My son a good sleeper but not the best at going to bed !

Introducing a big bed has helped so much with him waking in the night as he’s not hitting limbs on the edge of the cot but with that also comes the freedom to get out and be mischievous. I have spoken about this in The big bed and To Big Bed Or Not to big bed. 

I now feel is has been long enough that I can now give my honest opinion on the matter !

Like I said before he’s not the easiest to get into bed but this defiantly as made things worse as he can now escape. I have tackled this by letting him stay up later until he’s tired and ready for bed! So I am stil putting him to bed awake but not as awake and I’m going to slowly put him up earlier and earlier until he’s going to bed like his sister ( which is when I say so!)

As for waking in the night. I still haven’t had to tackle that one, which I am taking as a good sign. Before we converted the bed he was waking every night front thrashing about. But fingers crossed, touch wood this problemhas naturally resolved itself. 

Oh i forgot to mention, I have decided not to use a bed guard as I feel the possibility of his falling a couple of inches scares me much less than him trying to climb over it and falling about half a meter. I used one with my daughter and she was absolutely fine but I don’t feel she would have ever attempted to climb it. My son on the other hand is a typical boy who tried to climb, throw or chew anything he can get his grubby little hands on. So I definaly feel I have chosen the lesser of two evils. 

I hope this helps and one else out there with a little monkey like me. 

Much love 

Rhianna xx

Big bed 

So as you may know if you read To Big Bed Or Not To Big Bed, I have been deliberating on moving my 22month old into his toddler bed. Well last week we had a week of him waking throughout the night due to banging his head or getting an appendage stuck in the bars. 

So yesterday I bit the bullet and turned his cotbed into a toddler bed! For better or worse I was committed. I don’t want to jinx myself or anything but so far so good, granted I may be getting a bit ahead of my self but last night he slepted like a baby and even slepted in this morning. So fingers crossed for tonight!

Much love 

Rhianna xxx

Discipline

Back to the drawing board it seems!

My daughter as honestly a breeze to discipline, say no and she’ll stop or leave it alone for instance. And now she’s coming up for 4, she’s trying to push the boundaries but honestly I just threaten to shout (she hates shouting)  and she instantly stops!

Now on the other hand there is my monster of a son. To him no means carry on! He just doesn’t seem to respond to anything. He’s 21months and so his understanding is limited ? I’m considering starting a naughty spot with him but is he to young? Will he understand? Or am I just going to spend the entire day putting him back after he wonders off?? 

I feel so confused, I think ive read to many articles and they have scrambled my brain. Sometimes I feel “that’ll never work he’s to little”. I wonder if that me holding him back and he could possibly get it?  

OH I NEED HELP

But something needs to be done, don’t get me wrong he’s not a complete terror but he also can’t get away with bad behaviour?

So I begging for any advice or tricks you can give me. 

It feels silly asking as my daughter is so well behaved, it’s just what worked with her don’t work for him. 

Much love 

rhianna xx 

Boys trousers !

Ive been asking myself Why is it that trousers never fit my son?

This has been baffling me for the last 21months, I never had a problem with my daughter’s trousers constantly falling down. 

What is because she was a little chunky monkey? 

Is it because my son has a tiny waist? 

No I’ve concluded that it is because girls have leggings!! They are naturally tight and stretchy so just fit better over all!

Boys the other hand don’t have that luxury (I am aware you can get leggings for boys but there just not for my taste). Boys jeans seem to have the space capacity for a nappy but the waist doesn’t sinch in??? It makes you wonder if designers of children’s clothes actually have children. 

As for the adjustable inserts in the waist, there a complete waste of time in my opinion, they just don’t make the blindest of difference. Oh and don’t get me started on the joggers with the strings on the front!! There just false advertisement, they give you false hope that they could actually solve all your problems and then ots ripped away from you when you realize that once again there fake and are totally useless! 

If anyone out there feels my pain or even better has solved this problem and knows some magic elf making boys trousers that actually fit please put me out of my misery!

Much love

Rhianna xx